Mar 15

For the love of sheep?

“Tend my sheep.”
-John 21

Ever wonder why there seems to be so much tension between veterans and civilians?

Just scroll through some of the comments posted on “when a civilian says” memes and you will see just how real and deep that tensions run.

I do NOT believe that veterans are the sole party to blame for the rift between veterans and civilians but I will say that I think it is mainly our fault.  Admittedly, I hold veterans to a higher standard.  Maybe I am old school when I think that being a “quiet professional” actually means first being a “professional” at something and you don’t “beat your own chest” and seek out favors, attention, or credit.

The purpose of this post is to challenge veterans to think differently about civilians in general so that you may live among them better and maybe even grow to respect them.  In order to that, I am going to revisit the popular analogy of Sheep, Sheepdogs, and Wolves by LTC Dave Grossman, U.S. Armed (ret), to help make my point.

LTC Grossman describes the average civilian as sheep, military personnel and police officers as sheepdogs, and those that threaten our way of life as wolves. His analogy has turned into a widely embraced description in the Law Enforcement and military communities. Police and Veterans wear the ‘sheepdog’ title like a badge of honor (most of the time, they deserve too).

In an era when ‘over valorizing’ veterans is a legit discussion, it is even more important for us to look a little deeper into this topic. Sheepdogs are, as we all know, a part of the canine family. Which means by simple genetic make up they are more like the wolves than the sheep. They are more like the attacker than they are with the ones they are defending!

So what would be the ‘thing’ that differentiates the two animals? I suggest that the only practical difference is “domestication.” Both dog and wolf might salivate at the sight of a grazing animal and see it as a potential meal but only one will act out on that instinct, the other will deny its carnal desire.

I left the service and went into agriculture as mentioned in earlier blogs. On my small family farm every animal has its place. Each animal serves a specific purpose or it is removed. So, for me, it is very simple. If I have a certain livestock, such as cattle or sheep, on my farm, they are the “producers” that everything else revolves around. Dogs (sheepdogs, canines, etc.) are additions to that “producing” endeavor.  They are a support element, not a ‘”pet.”  All the animals are fed, housed, and loved the same…..for doing different, particular, and necessary jobs.

Protective dogs are intended to watch over the livestock and run off any potential attacker to the herd, flock, or whatever. They are NOT superior in any way (despite my own endearment of them) and they do not have free reign to do as they wish. I am confident that any farmer or rancher would say that he or she would put down “any” dog on their farm that attacked their livestock. It is unacceptable behavior.

Thus, a well domesticated dog, understands its role and place on the farm. That particular dog or dogs has the discipline to resist certain instincts (the same that the wolf has) to harm the ‘sheep.’ To the point where that dog will do battle against the wolves or any other outside animal that threatens the herd.

Military personnel and police offers must realize that we are not above the sheep/civilians we protect. In fact, the opposite is true. They are the ‘thing’ of worth in our country. They are the ‘producers,’ not us. We have a role to play for sure and it is a noble one! We are intended to stop and remove threats so that they can go on producing. Respect their role as much as your own.

As for those of you who are like me, who have left the military or the police force to become civilians yourself; take a second longer to realize that you aren’t in your previous role anymore. Sure, you can talk about your glory days and how you ‘were’ different but your mental energy will probably be better spent getting to know your new family and communicating with them. It is time for you to ‘produce’ something other than ‘defense’ and if you want to do that efficiently then you might want to eat some humble pie and learn from those who have been doing it already.

I would challenge veterans and suggest that if you embrace your new fleece and understand the importance of their role and your new role in our ‘herd of countrymen’ you might actually grow to love them.

As for you civilians who are reading this: manage your expectations of veterans. We will always have a slightly different walk and attitude about us. We are all trying hard to be a part of the fold but it doesn’t always come so naturally for us.

I struggle with loving civilians myself sometimes. But reminding myself of little things like the fact that my wife, daughter, and son are civilians/sheep helps bring it home for me. My wife is tougher than I am in so many ways and I am still proudly learning how to be a better me, from her, to this day.

-CWS

 

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Mar 08

Interviewer: “Do you have any questions for us?”

Recently I’ve been applying for new jobs internally and I was talking with one of my mentors about an interview I had coming up.  He’s a former First Sergeant who I can count on being brutally honest with me yet always gives some sage advice.  Because of this, I value his opinion greatly.  He asked me what questions I had for the end of the interview and I told him I didn’t really have any because I already spent 40 minutes on the phone with the hiring manager and he answered all my questions.  “Well, when I interview a candidate and they don’t have any questions, I think they’re an idiot.”  We laughed together and after a bit of ribbing, he dropped some easy yet insightful options that I’m now going to share with you.  So, here are 6 potential questions that you can ask at the end of an interview that will make you stand out as a candidate:

1. What is the first project/effort that you want me to tackle?

Not only does this question make you look like a forward thinking badass, but it also gives you an idea if the job is something you want to do.  It might have some sexy job title, but you find out that for the first 6 months they have a floor full of records that they want you to help digitize.

2. What are some of the Challenges that I might face?

Here you get some insight into the position, and it may open up an opportunity for you to talk about how you might tackle said challenges, further setting you apart in the candidate pool.  Again, the interview is also for you to get more information about the job to determine if it’s something you want to do.

3. Besides the manager, who should I look to for guidance in the role?

You really don’t want to be going to your boss for every question, you also don’t want to ask advice from the wrong person.  This will also help you identify the people who your future boss thinks are doing a good job and surrounding yourself with them.

4. What are you looking for in a candidate?

This is great if you still have some time in the interview.  Listen carefully, then find ways to show how you fit that description.  This is a way of getting the answer to the test, then having an opportunity to reword and present as your own.

5. What are the keys to success in this job?

This is an opportunity to get a candid answer from your next boss on what he/she is looking for, and it will help you understand what you need to focus on as soon as you start the job.  You’re probably going to have a lot to learn, many questions, and maybe little direction about where to start.  With this question, you will know exactly what you need to focus on and if you need training somewhere, what training you need to ensure your success rapidly.

6.  What does a typical day look like?

This last one is just for you.  Don’t let them get away with something like “every day is different”, hit them with a follow up like “well, what are some of the tasks that you have to do every day?”  You might find out right there that this is NOT something you want to be doing for the next several years.

There you go, you’ve now got 6 different questions that you can use at the end of an interview to get a better understanding of the job and make yourself stand out as a candidate, or as my mentor puts it, “Don’t look like an idiot.”

-LJF

 

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Mar 01

Some simple but probably not so easy money saving tips

One sure fire way to increase stress and problems after your transition, or in your marriage, is to jack up your finances.  Living paycheck to paycheck and being thousands of dollars in debt is one of the worst feelings in the world.  It’s like you’re sprinting on a hamster wheel and it seems as though there’s no way out.  So here are some ways you can save big bucks, but you’re probably not going to like them all.

Pack Your Lunch- up to $200/month

Unless you’re eating at the DFAC, buying lunch is going to cost you $7-10 a pop.  If you’re doing that every day that means you’re spending somewhere around $50 a week on lunch.  Don’t get me wrong, I love a good whopper or a delicious buffet, I’ve got the pounds to prove it, but my wallet can’t take that kind of hit every day.  If there is more than one person in the house doing that, then you’re really into some big dollars.  If you pack your lunch, you can usually feed yourself for $2-3 which means you’re saving $35 a week.

Cut the Cord- $100/ month

Drop the cable bill.  Most of you already have a Netflix and Hulu account, then you’re also paying $150 a month for cable?  Let’s face it, you’ve got like 6 shows you DVR, but otherwise you’re not watching cable.  The one holdout has been sports for a long time, but now even they are moving to streaming services.  Get yourself a high-speed internet service for $50/ month and save on all those channels.  If you have that one favorite show that you just can’t get, you can always buy that show on Amazon.  You can usually get a whole season of something for like $30 which is still less than what an entire month of cable will cost.  Besides, the cable companies are assholes and I can’t wait for those fuckers to go out of business.

Quit Tobacco

If you’re a veteran, chances are you have smoked or dipped a day or two.  This one sucks, but if you are strapped for cash, you should total up how much you’re spending on chew or smokes.  Seriously, do the math, then think about what you could be doing with that money instead of spitting it into empty soda bottles.  I understand that shit is as addictive as cocaine, just writing this makes me want to drop in a plug and I can barely have two beers without needing a smoke, but I am a tightwad and that is a waste of money.  Just think about it.

Trade in your car

Oh yeah, I went there.  I once wrote an article about my Prius and how frustratingly smart of a financial choice it was.  I actually was paid to buy that car, and it reliably gets me to work every day.  I drive it for around 5 hours a week and fill up gas once a month.  It costs me $15 a month to get to work and back.  I used to drive an F-150, it was beautiful. This gorgeous black extended cab with leather seats, navigation, and XM radio.  I smiled every time I got in the driver’s seat, but I paid almost $300 a month for that thing and gas was atrocious.  So I made the decision that was right for my family and got rid of it.  I might not drive around as nice of a vehicle anymore, but I’ve taken my family to Disney several times and there are 5 digits in my savings account.  To me, it was a worthwhile trade.

Some things are easy to budget for: groceries, gas, electric, mortgage, etc. But some things catch you by surprise, like maybe your lunch bill.  Take a close look at your expenses and see where you can afford to make a cut.  If you do everything on this list, some of you can save up to $600 a month.

Being debt free is really like being released from bondage and financial security is a tremendous reward for your hard work.

-LJF

 

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Feb 21

Break the Chain

We don’t need another awareness campaign about veteran suicide.  Plenty of people are aware that every day veterans are taking their lives.  What we need is action, and we need to stop looking around at other people seeing they are going to do something about it.  I started CONUS Battle Drills because I simply could not sit idle any longer while my brothers tore themselves apart.  Today I present #BreakTheChain, an effort to educate veterans and arm each and every one of us to combat this epidemic.  Watch the video below or click here:

 

 

YOU can help #BreakTheChain by getting yourself prepared and understanding the four big questions, YOU can call a buddy today to see how he is doing, and YOU can promise not to quit.  If there were millions of us looking out for each other, working together, checking up on each other, and educating each other, we can stop veteran suicide.

Let’s stop looking to government or someone else, let’s look at ourselves and figure out how we can take care of just one or two people…together we can affect serious, lasting, positive change.

#BreakTheChain

-LJF

 

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